sisterhood is really that gworl

just a letter from the eldest daughter on eldest daughter day...

I recently fell out with a “friend.”

At first, I was very bothered because I felt like I genuinely did nothing to this girl. She got mad that I posted an Instagram story about how I felt about only children, and as an only child, she decided that she didn’t want to be around my energy. Naturally, I apologized and tried to make it right, but she didn’t care and assured me that this situation was “water under the bridge.” I left it alone after that because I genuinely don’t want to be anywhere I’m not wanted. I have enough friends and too many people to keep up with anyway. One thing that I take pride in is being a great friend and a great sister, so I know it wasn’t me, so it made me wonder…do all girls not value female friendships?

As the eldest daughter, I like to think I AM the sister expert. When you’re a sister, and not just any sister but the oldest…you have a specific type of love, honor, and code for girls. Growing up with a sister, you learn how to share; you know how to have banter, fight and get the fuck over the petty shit. Being in a house all day with another human and having to go half on everything teaches you innate skills that you’ll only learn by having a sibling. I’ve learned that everybody doesn’t get it, and my issue was assuming that they do.

I love being a sister and ¹ *for the most part* being a girls girl. Sisterhood is a beautiful thing that is an indescribable, irreplaceable type of community. It’s like you either got it or you don’t…you know how to keep it, or you don’t. Female friendships are needed, and there’s nothing anybody can say to sway my thoughts. I’ve never been a girl who believed “it’s better being friends with the boys because girls are messy.” Whew. Gross. Nothing beats bonding over the girly things like OPI bubble bath, frolicking in Target with iced coffees, deciding if this season is giving middle part buss down or a nasty bang, sharing and swapping tips and stories, singing throwback songs from The Cheetah Girls, asking what should I text him next, celebrating milestones, and the list goes on.

First off, my sister is my entire world. Being her companion is my greatest role, which I take very seriously. It’s the biggest and most honorable role that I have had to take on, that I didn’t ask for. We sit on the phone for hours just breathing, we cuss each other out as a joke, and big each other up in the most important moments. She’s seriously the most supportive, caring, best person I’ve ever met…but enough of that mushy stuff…we don’t even talk like that lmao.

me & my pookie

Sisterhood has been on my mind recently because PPG on Love Island was the epitome of what I think sisterhood is. If you’re not a part of the Love Island cult, I’ll break it down. From season six of USA, Serena, JaNa, and Leah stayed ten toes down behind each other. We saw their bond grow on camera; we saw little disagreements where the girls had to clock each other, take accountability, and support each other in their rights and wrongs. Not to mention, all of these girls have sisters.

One of the most iconic scenes for me was when Leah expressed to Serena that she wanted to go back to Rob even after a messy situation. Serena was clearly over it as a Virgo who stands on BIG business, and Leah essentially wanted to go back to a less-than-ideal situation. Leah knew she was being toxic, and Serena was clearly like girl wtf? But instead of judging her, she said she’s here for her no matter what, she supports women’s rights and wrongs and that included Leah’s wrong decision. At the end of the day, she knew that no matter what her friend chose, she would be down to deal with the aftermath together. That’s what sisterhood is about. It’s not always gum drops, pink bows, and glitter…sometimes it looks like tears over men who ain’t worth it, helping your friend take her small knotless braids down even when you don’t want to, and lying on a phone call as a job reference so your friend can get to the bag.

There are so many sitcoms and movies about girl groups and trios sharing so many life lessons about girlhood…hence why it’s so important. From Living Single to Girlfriends, thee iconic Sex and the City, Sister, Sister and the newly essential Insecure, and beyond…I am side-eyeing any girl who says she doesn’t get along with women because I am nothing without my girlfriends. Investing in platonic love takes time, just like any other bond, and should hold the same weight. Relationships ebb and flow throughout the years, and as we adult, things change, but I take my female friendships seriously, and handle them with care. Sometimes, you do have to weed out the bad seeds, but once you find your girls…they really make life worth living.

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I know today was about the eldest sister, and I can make plenty of notes on this, but it’s been in my heart to talk about the importance of sisterhood in general. It’s an essential community that every girl needs to partake in. If you’re lucky to have a group of girls, various circles, or even that one best friend…tell her she is smart, she is kind, and she is important and the baddest bitch you know! Also, send this to her/them, as extra homework. :) If you have yet to find your sister tribe, I really hope you do. Leave a comment if you need tips.

@indiamoneeWhen your little sister is finally old enough to hang 😂 ft @Postino WineCafé #nene #cheerstothegirlsweekend

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Cheers bitch.

mwah 💋,

— India Monee’

Remember: “Friendships don't magically last 40 years. You have to invest in them. It's like your savings: You don't expect to wake up one day when you're old and find a big bucket of money waiting there.” -Carrie Bradshaw

clearly a girl's anthem:

Latest Obsessions:

• This interview with Keke Palmer and the winners of Love Island. She literally asked all the questions we wanted to know.

• My Paris experience part 2

• Crime documentaries!!!! Am I losing sleep at night? Yes.

• Current song on repeat. I don’t know why…I think it’s the beat.

1. some bitches be dumb, so I can’t support all the things the girls do.